LIVE WITH YOUR WIFE IN AN UNDERSTANDING WAY

[Brooklynnite 4 Life]

Sometime ago, there was a Swiss psychologist who spent his entire professional life studying the psychology of women. After more than thirty years on the job, he reportedly blurted out in a moment of frustration, "What is it they want, anyway?"

Imagination or real, the story represents what many men would admit to--moments of frustration trying to "figure out" their feminine friends. Many men have asked, "What is it they want, anyway?"

Is that question insulting to women? If you think about it for a moment, it ought to be an insult to men! Thirty years, and he couldn`t figure it out? Where was his brain? Where is mine? Yours?

That`s essentially what the apostle is saying here. "Men, live with your wives in an understanding way." In other words, "Men, engage your mind. Use that spherical object on your shoulders to live intelligently with this magnificent creature God has placed at your side."

Webster dictionary defines understanding as "gaining a full mental grasp." Not bad. Those are words we men ought to be able to grapple with. To understand is to gain a full mental grasp of the nature and significance to something. To understand is a mental process of arriving at a result. It`s when you study and study an issue, turn it this way and that, and suddenly the wires connect, the light blinks on and you say, "Ah-ha! So that`s the way it works!" There ought to be ah-ha`s as we seek to comprehend the implications of womanhood. Men are commanded to understand, to comprehend, to apprehend the meaning of, to grasp the force of living with a woman. Understanding involves a discerning skill, a rational process, and a reasoned judgment.